When you think of that next step for yourself in your life or career/business how often do you say to yourself, "I just wish I could figure this out!"? Do you ask this question and then launch into a bunch of mental gymnastics of working really hard to find an answer? If so, you?re not alone... I hear it all the time from people in my classes and often from people when they first come to me for coaching.
How does this habit, this energy of trying to figure it all out leave you feeling? Perhaps you feel:
* Struggle (I?m going to figure this out if it kills me dammit!)
* Frustration (Argh! I can?t quite get it!)
* Self-doubt, like there?s something wrong with you (Why can?t I figure this out?!)
* Irritation and aggravation (When AM I going to figure this out ALREADY!?)
* Defeat (Oh for goodness sake this is too hard, I should just settle for what I have.)
Any of this sound familiar?
I know I can relate... I spent YEARS trying to figure it all out. I tried to tackle my life like a problem to be solved or a journey to be endured. I read the books, I took the classes, I followed the expert?s advice, and I took the assessments. Only to realize I was back where I started...with me, myself, and I. At that point it didn?t feel like very fine company at all!
Then through the experience of some awesome transformational work and coaching I realized that this wasn?t a problem to be solved at all. Discovering who I wanted to be when I grew up wasn?t about a job, an industry, or any particular thing I might "do" at all. It had to do with uncovering, embracing, and expressing the full, no holds barred, authentic ME. Once that happened, even while I was still in my old career and building toward something new, everything changed.
So you see it isn?t about trying to solve your life like a math problem. The answers lie when you make the shift from struggle and problem solving to becoming an adventurer in your own life - your inner world as well as your outer experiences. Finding out what you?re meant to be doing personally and professionally starts with exploring and discovering the roadmap back to YOU. The uniqueness that is inexplicably and genuinely you (and only you, no one else!).
It is impossible to arrive at this knowing, this clarity if you?re trying to wrestle your mind to the ground "figuring it all out". You need to let go of the struggle (even if that feels scary!) and lean into uncovering what is already within you. You don?t need to "find" yourself; you just need to reignite the person who already knows.
When you make this quantum shift from trying to figure out what you should be doing to relaxing into the person you most want to be in this lifetime, possibilities open up. Clarity rains down on you like a summer thunderstorm. The "doing" takes care of itself...
Discovering your next career or life direction (or perhaps just tweaking the one you have so it fuels instead of exhausts you) is a path that it so much easier and quicker to walk with a guide. You can try to figure it out for years or decades like I did, or you can grab yourself a trusted guide who knows the way, like an adventure guide on a trail in the backcountry. Because that is what this is for you right? Unchartered waters? An unwalked path?
So I want you to be honest with yourself...take a few minutes to get quiet and ask yourself - am I struggling and trying to figure this all out for myself like a big old math problem? How is this serving me? How much progress am I making? How am I feeling about this? Write down what comes to you right away...just let your pen flow. And be honest with yourself...
If you don?t like what you?re uncovering, make a choice, make a commitment to yourself right here, right now, to do something different. Take a new approach. To activate the energy of this new approach, I invite you to choose 1 thing that inspires you or gives you energy. Then go do that -- just go out and feel what it feels like to be juiced up and alive.
Notice a difference from the frustration of trying to figure it all out?
This is a possibility, a way of uncovering this next step for you that is available to you. You don?t have to stay stuck, you don?t have to struggle. You can explore and play your way back to the you that you want to be in the first place!
Are ready to drop the struggle and frustration and choose to do things differently? Wouldn?t you rather go on a treasure hunt to your best life rather than try and wrestle some made-up-in-your-head solution to the ground? If so, apply for a complimentary Breakthrough Acceleration Meeting at http://www.thepaulagcompany.com/application and connect with a trusted guide that can help you create the best next step for you.
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Never underestimate the importance of loving yourself. It's fundamental to your journey in life if you wish to maintain your emotional mental and physical health.
Loving yourself is not something you ever finish, as you go through the ups and downs and the twists and turns of life you will continue to grow and you will adjust to change, this gives us plenty of opportunities to learn to love ourselves.
There's another common term I'm sure you've heard that's generally used to describe the way you feel about yourself this is self-esteem, this term is used to describe how you perceive 'you'. Without a steady and solid foundation of self esteem, life will be a challenge.
Why is this important? - The way you feel about 'you' will affect the way you 'are' in the world, it will affect your perceptions, decision making, social life, relationships and health.
People that do not love or think very highly of themselves, don't expect much from life, they tend to repeat negative thinking patterns, and can feel inferior to others. To help you understand this point I have added this case study.
JANE - Jane does not like herself, she is not consciously aware of this, her thinking patterns are negative and repetitive. This is normal for Jane she doesn't know how else to behave. She is not enjoying life, she hates her job, she doesn't have a very good relationship with her children or husband, Jane is depressed and de-motivated.
Together we discussed Jane's life and childhood and it soon became apparent that her parents were overly critical they were not demonstrative with their love and affection, Jane did not receive the emotional support she needed as a child, this consequently led her to believe that she didn't deserve good things, that she was a nobody. When Jane left home she continued to repeat these patterns criticising herself calling herself names, and putting herself down.
I explained to Jane that she had low-self esteem, she did not love herself and explained that if she did not love herself then it was hard for her to accept love from others, slowly Jane started to understand how this had impacted her life. I explained...
When you don't think much of yourself, you don't respect yourself, it's easy to allow others to de-value you (as her husband was doing) it's easy to allow others to manipulate you (as her children were doing) it's easy to allow others to take advantage of you (as her family and friends were doing) it's hard to say NO, and people that knew she found that difficult took advantage. If you lack respect for yourself, then others will not respect you. Jane realised she was 'allowing' all these people to 'treat' her this way because she didn't believe she deserved anything else. She didn't realise there was another way to live she had been going around in circles all her life.
This is how Jane's life improved, when she started to love and respect herself.
She started by noticing the negative comments she said to herself and replaced them with 'positive' comments. Changing the tapes in her head changed her perception and the way she felt about herself, these changes had a major effect on her life.
She was able to say NO to her friends, and was not used as a taxi or babysitting service.
She was able to say NO to her children, teach them to become responsible instead of relying on her help, time and money.
She was able to tell her husband what needs he was not filling within their marriage and when he was being unreasonable.
She was able to see she was being 'used' at work and changed her job.
Jane's life is now very different, she is happier than she could ever have imagined and all because she learned to love herself.
I hope you can see how important and fundamental this is to your life if you want to be happy, and maybe you may see a little of your own life in Jane and now you know what you need to do.
Shelley Harris
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A search of the internet reveals a number (but not that many, about 20) of apparently reputable, scientific research papers about whether subliminal audio messaging works. Most come down against any evidence of efficacy, except where there might be a placebo effect. (About which more later).
The argument seems to be that if the message is too quiet to hear, effectively hidden or masked by the main music or other foreground sounds (ocean, rain, wind), then by definition it is not processed by the brain because it doesn't get through.
Sounds (pun intended) pretty convincing. But is it?
The trouble with these experiments is that they are just that - tests undertaken in laboratory conditions on a very limited number of subjects. Like evidence-based medicine, they are valuable to the extent that the evidence base is complete and unbiased.
Unfortunately for the sceptics they do not take into consideration the idea of Silent Evidence - in the case of subliminal audio messaging this means that just because there is no evidence that it works does NOT constitute proof that it doesn't.
Indeed two of the studies did grudgingly show some positive effects of subliminal messages not due to chance, but these were put down to the placebo effect.
Here lies the answer to the question: surely this is the way to approach subliminal audio - believe that it works and it will. It's the self-fulfilling prophecy, or as Henry Ford put it "Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're probably right".
The best way to benefit from subliminal audio is to know exactly what the subliminal messages are. The most professional recordings have a list of the affirmations, no more than 10 or so, which are embedded in the soundtrack.
The idea behind affirmations is that the conscious mind doing the affirming is passing the command to the sub-conscious mind where it will be rooted as a new belief. At a basic level the mind cannot tell the difference between reality and the imagined.
Picture a lemon; hold it close to your nose, smell the lemony tang; now slice the lemon in two with a sharp knife, feeling and scenting the fine mist; now bring the cut lemon up to your mouth...what's happening? You're salivating, aren't you, over this thought-lemon?
Affirmations are well-researched and widely accepted as being effective in changing thought patterns, and ultimately behaviour. They are written as personal, positive and present tense, for example "I am grateful for all the good things in my life". However, the feelings of the affirmer should be in sync with the affirmation. If affirming peace but feeling angry, the affirmation will not produce the desired outcome.
So, if you believe in the subliminal affirmations, if you feel they are right for you, and if you believe that they are penetrating deep into your sub-conscious, then you will in time see results.
The key is "in time" - this is not a quick fix. However the beauty of subliminal audio is that you can listen to it when you're doing something else - just download an mp3 to your iPod or whatever and away you go.
They are deeply relaxing anyway, the sounds of ocean, thunderstorm, wind and fire all drill down into the ancient, atavistic parts of the brain - much more evocative and powerful than chill or new age music.
In conclusion then, subliminal audio messaging works if you want it to - it's really as simple as that.
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It seems that every month ushers in a new kind of diet for weight loss. We see these diets on television, on magazines and online in various guises most of them advocating healthy exercise, healthy diet and healthy lifestyle changes. More often than not, most people will fail at these diets until The Motivational Weightloss Program comes into their life.
No, this is not another diet pitch that provides the ways and means to attain a lean and mean body through a set of dietary guidelines and exercise program. We already have too many of these products and services in the market that may or may not be effective. In fact, you can choose the weight loss diet and exercise program that you believe will work best for your case, all while also applying the principles found in Dr. Glauberman's work.
So, the question remains: What is the The Motivational Weightloss Program? To put it simply, this is a program touching on the many psychological aspects of weight loss. This program was developed by noted psychologist and hypnotist, Lloyd Glauberman. You need not worry as there are no subliminal messages contained in any part of the program.
Instead, Dr. Glauberman utilizes his revolutionary method known as Hypno Peripheral Processing (HPP) to bring about lasting changes into how the listener thinks about the subject of weight loss. There are no diet and exercise plans in the The Motivational Weightloss Program since Dr. Glauberman wants to break down the mental barriers that prevent anybody from actually adopting the weight loss programs proposed by health and fitness experts.
Think of the Dr. Lloyd Glauberman's program as an important adjunct therapy to your weight loss treatment. While your body undergoes the desired changes in size, shape and girth through a healthy diet and exercise program, your mind also undergoes a series of welcome changes wherein you can stick to your healthy lifestyle. If you have ever gone on yo-yo diets, backslid into overeating and reverted to being a couch potato, it may have been largely because your mind was unprepared for these physical changes.
This is where The Motivational Weightloss Program comes in. Slowly but surely, you will condition your mind to accept the physical changes being made until such time that whatever lifestyle changes are required in your weight loss program becomes second nature for you. For example, if the lifestyle changes say that you have to eat less, listening to the CD will condition your mind to actually eat less.
Indeed, so many people fail in their weight loss efforts because of their exclusive concentration on what the body needs and then pandering to it. The mind is then woefully and wrongfully overlooked, which should not be as weight loss is so often a matter of mind over body. So, if your weight loss plans are not going as expected, we suggest listening to the The Motivational Weightloss Program today.
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Feeding your spirit with positive energy can help you stay happy in difficult times. We have learned this lesson a time or two! This is important because in this internet marketing industry it is easy to get discouraged and give up. So having positive energy and feeling deep down within yourself can truly keep you motivated even at the low points of frustration. There have been times when we wanted to throw in the towel in our minds, but in our hearts we knew that success is what we were after. We knew that if we stayed positive and encouraged that we could make it through the rough patch that we were going through. The best thing to keep in mind when you're feeling down is that bad times don't last forever and tomorrow is always a new beginning. Just because you may have had a bad day doesn't mean that you have to have a bad tomorrow! It really is up to you, no one can make you be happy and positive if you don't allow positive thoughts to enter your mind and spirit.
One way to stay positive is to surround yourself with positive people. Believe us they are out there! And in this industry there are more of them out there that you can connect with even if you don't have someone positive living near you. This is the beauty of the internet --the ability to meet people around the world that are like minded and all striving to better themselves and others in the process. It's a comfortable feeling when you can get some words of encouragement right on your computer screen from someone who wants to help lift your spirits. With technology we are able to build relationships with people with a few clicks of a button and help change lives from the comfort of our own home. Isn't that wonderful? We think so! We believe in trying to touch as many lives as possible and help as many people we can using this powerful tool called the World Wide Web.
There are a few people on twitter that we follow that have positive tweets everyday that can lift your spirits even when you feel at your worst. We've caught ourselves thinking "Does this person know me personally?"(lol) because sometimes it feels like they are talking directly to us. A few of those people are, Tony Robbins, John C. Maxwell, Rev Run, Tony Gaskins and Ralph Marston. These are some great people to follow on twitter that will help you get through rough patches when you're feeling down. Oh and don't forget us Faith and Kirsten! We are always here and on twitter and Facebook to help uplift you and guide you to success as well. You need your spirit and mind to be on one accord so that you can move forward in a positive direction with confidence and a smile leading the way.
A positive attitude changes the way you look at the world. There was a point where when we didn't have any direction in life and we looked at everything to end up bad. Thinking like that lead us straight to the negative. If you want good things to happen to you, you must first expect those things to happen for you! The power of positive thinking can move mountains if you are willing to step outside of the negative shadow that the world tries to bring your way. You have a choice everyday and with every situation on whether or not you're going to look at it in a positive light, or if you're going to see it negatively. Which way of thinking will you choose? It's up to you!
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The Jim Rohn Sampler CD contains tons of useful information that can be applied to any aspect of your life. Those who are having relationship difficulties, trouble finding out what they want to do with their lives, how to exceed further in their career, as well as those who simply feel stuck in a rut can benefit from taking the time to listen to this self-help product.
Some of the segments of this product including Turning Nothing into Something, What Money Can Do, Success is Everything, Being Fruitful, Sharing, Time Management, and Sowing and Reaping. Obviously, the key essentials of success are simple to figure out. First off, you must know what you want out of life in regards to all aspects including personal relationships, your career, and overall life direction.
However, the difficult part is knowing the exact details that will help to make it all work. How will you get to where you want to be? The Jim Rohn Sampler CD provides all the hidden details you need to put your plan together and motivates you into action. When it comes to making nothing in to something, most everyone who is successful has been able to do just that. The majority of all individuals must start out at the bottom and work their way up the ladder.
In order to do that, you must have superior time management skills. Knowing how to make the most of your time will help you to achieve success at a much quicker rate. On the days when you aren't feeling your best, you must still continue to push because those are the times where you will be made stronger and able to endure. When your time is effectively managed, you actually help to provide yourself with more time to spend with your children, family, friends, and doing the things you love.
The Jim Rohn Sampler CD by Jim Rohn helps you to realize that everything you do will produce a result. When you sit around all day, the result will obviously be nothing. Likewise, another example would be cleaning your house. The more time you spend cleaning your house with greater concentration and attention to what you are doing, the better the result. In the end, time spent in action working toward a desired outcome results in a feeling of accomplishment and an increased sense of self-worth.
In life, it's all about what you can achieve. Everyone was meant to do something. It's natural for people to have a thirst for success. People are always searching for things that will help them to become happier and more content in life and with themselves in general. The Jim Rohn Sampler CD is composed of all the knowledge you need to obtain the satisfaction in life that you are searching for.
If you're like most people, you sense that something in your life is missing. Probably you are not utilizing your talents and strengths in the way that you were meant to. There is also a probable chance that you do not even realize how much you can achieve. The only way to know is to do it. The Jim Rohn Sampler CD by Jim Rohn will help you to build a plan that will lead you to the place where you will find the most happiness.
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Did you know that color has the ability to evoke emotions? Most of you do... but, do you know which ones evoke which emotion? This fun and useful information about just a few colors in the palette will help you use color to:
1. Counteract negative emotions
2. Encourage positive emotions
3. Look and feel your best.
GREEN: brings feelings of relaxation, happiness, comfort, peace and hope. It can be very healing emotionally to spend time looking at green in nature. If you live in a climate where green "goes away" during winter look at beautiful pictures and videos during these months.
YELLOW: evokes feelings of energy, happiness and excitement. It is connoted with summer and sunshine. Soak it in whenever you can!
BLUE: induces a relaxing and calming effect. Think how you feel when sitting by the ocean watching and listening to the waves roll in... or laying on your back staring up into the sky.
RED: brings thoughts of love and romance which evokes feelings of happiness and passion.
PURPLE: has always been connoted with royalty, but many connote it with laughter and children. Either way, it can make you feel good when you see it or wear it.
BLUE-GREEN: combines the wonderful emotions both blue and green evoke. Blue-green is a color that is becoming to nearly every skin tone... so, where it with confidence!
YELLOW-GREEN: does NOT combine the wonderful emotions these two colors have separately. It often induce feelings of illness and disgust. Few people can wear this color well. You need to be certain this is a color for you - if it is, you will turn heads.
Whether you just look at color or you wear color - it is a powerful tool. Use it wisely and freely.
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