Contrary to popular belief, loving yourself is primary to good health, good relationships, emotional and spiritual growth. It is a scientific psychological fact that one can not love another more than one loves oneself. This article sets forth ten proven strategies to express self-love without being egotistical, arrogant, narcissistic or self-absorbed.
? Stop all Criticism: Criticism is abusive, whether it is self-rendered or by someone else. Accepting yourself exactly as you are; frees you to learn and grow. When you criticize yourself, you are anchoring the behavior you wish to eliminate. What you focus on; is what you create. Focus on the behavior you want to exhibit and watch it manifest more and more. The more you exhibit the behavior you want, the more it will manifest; and it will extinguish the behavior you want to eliminate.
? Stop scaring yourself. Stop 'terrorizing thoughts.' Create a mental image which gives you pleasure and positive focus. When you hear yourself saying terrorizing thoughts immediately switch to a pleasurable and positive thought.
? Be Kind, Gentle and Patient To Yourself: Treat yourself as you treat others you care about and love. You will be able to treat others with more kindness, gentleness, patience and love when you give it to yourself.
? Be Kind To Your Mind: Self-hatred is hating your thoughts - Hating your thoughts is being your own enemy. Stop hating yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
? Praise Yourself: Lack of Self-praise is emotional abandonment of oneself. It is no less damaging than a parent emotionally abandoning a child. Praise yourself for each and every thing you do. 'Good job. You got it done in the time you set for yourself.' 'You are very creative.' "You are funny, articulate and intelligent.' The list of ways to give self- praise is endless.
? Support Yourself: Reach out to friends or family when you need help. It is a testimony to your strength when you ask for help when you need it.
? Be Kind, Gentle, Patient and Loving To Yourself When Things Go Awry: Lovingly remind yourself you can learn and grow from this experience. Mistakes are only made when nothing is learned from it and the mistake is repeated and repeated.
? Take Care of Your Mind, Body and Spirit: Forgive yourself and others for errors, omissions and hurts. Practice healthy nutrition. Learn what fuel your body needs for optimum energy and vitality. Exercise a minimum of 2 - 3 times a week. Meditate, practice yoga or other spiritual endeavors.
? Mirror - Mirror, who is the fairest?: Look into your eyes often. Express your love for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking in the mirror. Say, "I love you, (say your name out loud), I forgive you for any errors, omissions or hurts. Say it at least three times a day.
? Do It Now - Right now right this moment and every moment hereafter, commit to loving yourself in all the ways listed above. Procrastination has never created anything new. Action creates new behaviors. Procrastination creates old behaviors over and over again. Albert Einstein US (German-born) physicist (1879 - 1955) said, 'The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.' Just do it beginning now.
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician - Certified Hypnosis Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing blocks, fears and limiting beliefs. You can live the life you desire. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one's thoughts and feelings. http://www.gen-assist.com
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